Bernard “Bernie” Packard - “Dad”

bernie packardThis  Father’s  Day,  we  pay  tribute  to  the  man  who  influenced  the  values  and  culture  that  we enjoy  at  the  Packard  Law  Firm. My  father,  Bernie,  has always  been  the  kind  of  man  that  his children  wanted  to  emulate. In fact, between his  children and their  spouses, 11 have become attorneys. (He also has 2 sons who are doctors).  Many times, life gave Bernie every reason to quit,  but  he  never  did. He once  told  me: “if  I  had  one  ace  in  life,  it  was  this:  every  time  life punched  me  in  the  mouth,  I  decided to get back  up.”Bernie is a living  example of what can happen when we approach life’s disappointments with optimism and grit.

young bernie packardBernie was born on a farm during the great depression.  Life on the farm was already hard, but it  became  even  harder  when  his  father  became  a  Japanese prisoner  of  war  for  almost  all  of WWII. The family worked night and day to eke out a living.  Finally, Bernie’s father returned from the war, but a few years later, a plane carrying both of his parents crashed, completely disabling his  father  and  killing  his  mother.  It  was a dark, lonely time for Bernie, but his reaction to this tragedy set the tone for the rest of his life. He promised himself that “he would become a good one.”

He picked himself back up and started to attack life with determination and hope. He finished high school, married Sarah Hayes, graduated from law school, and raised 13 children. Life seemed to be going perfectly when tragedy struck again. A leaky gas line caused our home to erupt into flames, and his eight-year-old daughter, Rachelle, perished. Although the pain and despair were almost suffocating, Bernie and Sarah resolved that they would not let their child’s death consume the rest of  their  family. They showed us how perseverance combined with a resolve to stay motivated always triumphs over life’s challenges. The years passed and things seemed to improve.   

Then, tragedy struck again. Bernie’s wife, Sarah, contracted Lou Gehrig's disease, and she was given less than two years to live. Rather than quitting  and  waiting  to  die, Bernie and  Sarah decided to  live.  They  toured  the  Holy  Land, where the Savior carried his cross, and they took the family to the east coast for one final family vacation.  At  home,  they  cherished  every  moment  they had  together.  As the end approached, Bernie personally cared for Sarah’s every need. He wanted to do it himself, and she died at home in his arms, surrounded by their children.  Heartbroken, Bernie refused to let Sarah’s death tear the family apart. When one child felt especially troubled, Bernie  said: “I have lost my wife, and you have lost your mother. I will not lose my family.” Bernie remarried Nancy Howell, and his family and his business flourished. Bernie kept his promise to “become a good one”.  

Today, Dad’s life has profoundly influenced the way we approach adversity. Dad didn’t just talk about getting back up, he lived it -- over and over  again. Through  him, we learned that our choices, not our circumstances, define who we are, what we can do, and who we can become.